Why Do I Despise My Job So Much?
If you're like the majority of people, the odds are good that at some time in your life, you've had a job in retail, in food service, or in an office from 9 to 5. The majority of the time, we think of employment like this as being only filler as we plan our next steps toward something more significant and exciting.
On the other hand, many of us have been in the situation where we've moved on to a greater opportunity than the one we've been fantasizing about, but we're still miserable and don't know why. So the question is, how can you find a job that you don't despise and that doesn't make you feel stifled, apathetic, and drained?
Get to the bottom of what it is about your present (or previous) circumstance that is REALLY making you miserable.
It is simple to place the blame for a bad experience at work on factors such as obnoxious colleagues, long hours, or an overwhelming amount of work. However, the reality is that if you really found satisfaction in the tasks you were assigned at work, the most of these annoyances would seem like small inconveniences throughout the day rather than taking control of the whole experience you were having. So, what exactly is it about a day at work that can make you feel so miserable? In most cases, the issue at hand is linked to the passage of time.
When you're frustrated with the way things are going where you work right now, what you're actually unhappy about is the sensation that you're squandering the time that you have right now when you might be doing something better, more meaningful, and more important with that time. The thought crosses your mind, "If only I already had my job at X, I would truly be enjoying myself and doing something constructive with the time that I have," yet you don't yet have that employment. What you don't know is that, no matter where you move or what new position you take on, your drive to do a good job at your work (while still enjoying it) will, in most cases, wane after a certain amount of time has passed. You need to ask yourself, "What is my purpose for being here other than a paycheck?" in order to maintain that level of enthusiasm and satisfaction in the work that you do.
Find out what your mission is at work if you want to keep your motivation up.
You didn't get to where you are now without putting in a lot of work and exerting a lot of effort along the way. You filed your application, you attended all of the interviews, and you sold yourself to obtain the post. This was the case regardless of the esteem in which the job was held. However, after working for a company for three months, those days start to seem extremely distant, and you find yourself trapped in the rut of the current moment while questioning why you ever wanted to be here in the first place.
You can't depend on your own drive to get you through a process; you need something more. Once that feeling has passed, you will need to start your day at work by consciously bringing to mind the most important aspect of why you are there. When compared to a profound, heartfelt yearning, most people will never consider money to be significant or satisfying to the same degree. It's possible that the job you have at the local fast food chain is nothing more than that, but it's also possible that it may be your ticket to learning the ins and outs of providing exceptional customer service, which has been the cornerstone of an incredibly successful business model. You decide.
Consider your job to be a practical training ground where you may acquire the abilities you want.
Once you have determined your mission in life, you may see each new day as a chance to teach yourself a new skill or lesson, and you can do this by viewing your job as a classroom. If you want to become more adept at interacting with others, you should set yourself the goal of getting five different customers to laugh at something you say within the course of a single shift. Make it a personal game to time yourself while executing a certain work until you achieve the target time you have set for yourself. This will help you complete the task more quickly. Observe how much more satisfied you feel when you put your goal into action in the workplace.
Think about the kinds of settings in which you are most productive.
The setting in which one works is one of the factors that has the greatest impact on the degree to which one enjoys their job. How often have you been in situations where you worked jobs that were dull and didn't really inspire you, but you found pleasure in your day-to-day activities because of the people and culture you were surrounded by? It's the same reason why individuals may be happy when doing monotonous jobs in large cities like New York, but at the end of the day, they are still filled with appreciation and pleasure because of the external environment in which they live and work.
A job that allows you to work from home might be the perfect setting for you if you want to have a great deal of freedom with how you spend your time and prefer to work alone. If you are the kind of person who thrives in social situations and gets energized by the activity of others, a close-knit, collaborative work atmosphere may be the ideal setting for you. There are advantages and disadvantages to each and every kind of workplace, but only you can choose what your ideal working conditions would be like in terms of both appearance and atmosphere.
Realize that the solution does not lie in stumbling across your ideal occupation or discovering your true calling in life.
The conclusion that landing your ideal job is the solution to all of your professional problems is false, and it is likely the item on this list that will get the most pushback. If you do not know how to achieve a certain degree of contentment and thankfulness with the circumstances you are in right now, you will not be in a position to experience happiness in the future.
The same way that your drive wanes after a few months at your most recent side work, the same thing may and will happen after a set amount of time with the career you've always dreamed of having. Ask any CEO or someone who claims to have finally arrived at "the pinnacle" of where they always envisioned themselves to be. They will tell you that it wasn't easy getting there. They have a sense of gratitude and fulfillment, and they are pleased. They don't gloss over the reality that some days are difficult, that there are days when they don't want to show up and do the job, and that there are days when they daydream about alternative career paths that they might follow. BUT they don't ignore the fact that there are certain days. They continue to make it a daily habit to realign themselves with their greater purpose and the "why" behind why they show up to work each day.
This does not imply that you should give up on the aspirations you have! Instead, it's about allowing yourself to completely experience and find pleasure in the moment that you're in so that you may better prepare yourself for the ambitions you have in the future.
In a nutshell, if you despise your present work and are at a loss as to where to turn, you should consider the following options:
1. Acknowledge that the sensation that you are squandering your time and missing out on a greater purpose in your present job is probably the root cause of your unhappiness.
2. Determine what your larger, more long-term objectives are, and then find a greater purpose in your present work that aligns with those aspirations. Remind yourself of this goal on a daily basis so that you don't get the impression that the only reason you exist is to collect a salary.
3. Put your employment to work for you by identifying chances inside it to develop the types of abilities that you would find valuable for reaching your personal and professional objectives in the future.
4. Determine the sort of atmosphere in which you are most productive and which has the most impact on the level of happiness you experience in your day-to-day existence. It's possible that your response may surprise you.
5. Stop using the excuse that you can't be satisfied in your present circumstances because you haven't found your ideal career yet. Realize that if you are unable to find contentment and happiness in the present, you will continue to struggle with these feelings even after you have achieved the "great thing" that you have always desired for yourself.